Its not rare occurrence to stumble upon an individual that is confrontational be it a friend, relative, an acquaintance or salesperson.
Dismissing this kind can be hard, but it’s often wiser if you just listen to them briefly then politely end the discussion and leave.
If at all you plan to enter into an argument with a debater, better be ready and prepared with facts that will support your point of view. Always keep calm throughout the conversation until you are convinced it’s no longer effective to continue with.
Instructions on How to Go About It
Facts to these arguments can be sourced from experience, through reading, use of common sense, referring to opinions from experts and giving figures from practical research. Whether taking part in a an official debate or just trying to get over a disagreement with fellow co-workers, friend or relative, your views can be supported by any of these types of facts.
For instance, if its your for your opinion that smoking must be prohibited in public places, then be armed with statistics or figures on its negative effects and take a quote from an agency that advocates about dangers of smoking.
Carefully examine the position the debater holds together with yours. Be quick to identify any sense that your opponent mentions that doesn’t snag like outdated research or quotes from an expert that really doesn’t have any qualities or qualifications in the debater’s argument.
Note all inconsistencies with your opponent’s information especially if their argument isn’t substantiated. Call to attention if a witness they claim of is a direct witness or they are referring to some hearsay or maybe there is biasness or stereotyping involved in their opinion.
You will need to stand up to speak. Steer clear of name-calling and avoid talking too loudly. As an alternative, tend to be more formal with the language and keep your voice down so that your opponent gets to listen more fixedly. For your very best quote, authoritative point or optimal emotionally forceful reason, leave them for your final statement or summary. Always shun from condescending or sounding like you are patronizing.
Let the debater know that you can only be ready to listen to their opinion if they were respectful and spoke with a normal voice tone, if at all they seem to raise their voice or ridiculing you.
And if the other party is plainly argumentative, affirm that on your part arguments are not your thing but you can willingly discuss any reasonable ideas or opinions if at all they are ready to open up to further opinions. Let them know that you respect their approach on the issue, but you differ.
Try to disseminate any escalation of conflict by controlling emotions. Yo can use comments like ‘I totally know why you are feeling that way’ or ‘your point is quite interesting’ as you still maintain your position. It’s good to always remember that not all of us are really open to each others opinions. If need be let the person know that the particular subject isn’t something you wish to go on discussing about maybe because it’s personal or impulsive.